A question with many answers
It is actually a question that employ us. But not so much if we have good sex. When we accept it. Only when the sex is not as good or suddenly got worse as we begin to brood. Why it does not work anymore and what is it made? And then it could also be that the sex with the same partner is unbelievably good today and tomorrow is completely worthless. Or it was good before, and then it got worse and worse. Sometimes sex is better when we know each other a long time. And one and another one night stand becomes supernova that can finally let go of all inhibitions. And now we ask ourselves, what really “good in bed”? The answers to this question are very different. These I got in my little survey:
“When I get an orgasm.”
“Anatomical basic knowledge should be.”
“That you know what the other wants, and that you do not have to say anything or ask.”
“Before you become good in bed you should master the basic techniques.”
“Good sex is always dependent on the love and feelings for each other. Sex without emotion can not be any good sex. ”
“I get very excited about, I think he smells good.”
Become coveted and release all
A recipe for great sex is not the case. For this, the views too different. My experience is that it is primarily the two components that make you great lover and that drives you into a spiral of lust.
1. For most women, it is an incredibly erotic feeling to feel coveted and desirable. This often underestimated. For it is unfortunately the case that many women consciously and unconsciously struggling with problem areas, and more. This makes it not easy. If a man comes and takes her as she is, thus sweeping away all doubt she can really let it all and enjoy. Then she is also ready to give himself. And it can also mean an extra kick that he simply takes what he wants.
2. Most men get very excited when they notice that the partner unleashes and enjoying sex. For them it’s almost an aphrodisiac when the partner is not there as a board in bed and just let things happen, but also actively with. Then she was happy to take “the reins in his hand” and “reckless” to take what she wants. He is more than happy with this!
So difficult, it is not. And this positive but still vicious circle works even for short adventures. On the other hand, loses couples in long relationships this åtråhet and then the sex of duty. Especially women lose the desire quickly. Both the man and the woman wants to listen to them and are interested in what they want in bed. A technical perfection is all very well, but just not enough. It strikes no sparks if the woman did not mean it, or when the man only feels tolerated. But on the other hand, you can feel so coveted as possible. When the others did not know what buttons he or she should push, pull, tickle, lick or suck on so it is not enough åtråhet. We need to get a good mix of anatomical knowledge, to master the different sexual techniques, a good feel for the needs of others and a willingness to talk about desires and fantasies. We need the will and the ability to unleash. Then we’re good in bed!