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How does one actually good in bed?

16_bra-i-sängen-1160x655-1160x6551. For most women, it is an incredibly erotic feeling to feel coveted and desirable. This often underestimated. For it is unfortunately the case that many women consciously and unconsciously struggling with problem areas, and more. This makes it not easy. If a man comes and takes her as she is, thus sweeping away all doubt she can really let it all and enjoy. Then she is also ready to give himself. And it can also mean an extra kick that he simply takes what he wants.

A question with many answers

It is actually a question that employ us. But not so much if we have good sex. When we accept it. Only when the sex is not as good or suddenly got worse as we begin to brood. Why it does not work anymore and what is it made? And then it could also be that the sex with the same partner is unbelievably good today and tomorrow is completely worthless. Or it was good before, and then it got worse and worse. Sometimes sex is better when we know each other a long time. And one and another one night stand becomes supernova that can finally let go of all inhibitions. And now we ask ourselves, what really “good in bed”? The answers to this question are very different. These I got in my little survey:

“When I get an orgasm.”
“Anatomical basic knowledge should be.”
“That you know what the other wants, and that you do not have to say anything or ask.”
“Before you become good in bed you should master the basic techniques.”
“Good sex is always dependent on the love and feelings for each other. Sex without emotion can not be any good sex. ”
“I get very excited about, I think he smells good.”
Become coveted and release all

A recipe for great sex is not the case. For this, the views too different. My experience is that it is primarily the two components that make you great lover and that drives you into a spiral of lust.

1. For most women, it is an incredibly erotic feeling to feel coveted and desirable. This often underestimated. For it is unfortunately the case that many women consciously and unconsciously struggling with problem areas, and more. This makes it not easy. If a man comes and takes her as she is, thus sweeping away all doubt she can really let it all and enjoy. Then she is also ready to give himself. And it can also mean an extra kick that he simply takes what he wants.

2. Most men get very excited when they notice that the partner unleashes and enjoying sex. For them it’s almost an aphrodisiac when the partner is not there as a board in bed and just let things happen, but also actively with. Then she was happy to take “the reins in his hand” and “reckless” to take what she wants. He is more than happy with this!

So difficult, it is not. And this positive but still vicious circle works even for short adventures. On the other hand, loses couples in long relationships this åtråhet and then the sex of duty. Especially women lose the desire quickly. Both the man and the woman wants to listen to them and are interested in what they want in bed. A technical perfection is all very well, but just not enough. It strikes no sparks if the woman did not mean it, or when the man only feels tolerated. But on the other hand, you can feel so coveted as possible. When the others did not know what buttons he or she should push, pull, tickle, lick or suck on so it is not enough åtråhet. We need to get a good mix of anatomical knowledge, to master the different sexual techniques, a good feel for the needs of others and a willingness to talk about desires and fantasies. We need the will and the ability to unleash. Then we’re good in bed!

No danger of heart attacks during intercourse!

What a beautiful way to go, indeed: to fall off the pin in the middle of a sexual intercourse – there are many who dream of dying in this way. Thus, when in any case have to die then it is surely better to do so than to die alone in bed or bloody after a car accident. In any case, if the man has sex with is not an aberration and that girlfriend you have long been involved with will be hurt the rest of her life. But wait, why, I assume that there is a man walking henceforth in the sweetest moment of them all? Well, because men in the ratio 3: 1 very often suffer a heart attack than women. And because the image of an elderly man collapses of a young naked mistress is familiar from the movies. In which movie was what I had seen this? I will not right now, maybe some of you know that? But the fact is that sex increases the risk of a heart attack?

Investigations are clearing away prejudices
Nope, nothing to worry about. The risk of suffering a myocardial infarction during intercourse is fairly small. And healthy men need not worry at all. “Blood pressure and heart rate increases during endurance sports, which is known as the most healthy form of sport,” says sexologist Kurt Seikowski. Sex instead of jogging, I like that! As for concerns about a heart attack so it is designed for those who have already suffered a heart attack. For too long there was a prejudice counseled to abstain from sex after a heart attack, not to expose themselves to additional risk.

According to a study published in the “Journal of the American College of Cardiology” so does not heart attack risk sexual activities. But a prejudice remains the only live as long as nobody talks about it. And according to a study at the University of Chicago has just 12% of women and 19% of the men talked about their sexual activities with their doctor. If it even was talk they got a recommendation to take it slow and might prefer to take the passive role. And let’s be honest, how fun is it to six if you always have to concentrate on the heart rate? On the contrary, physicians should instead notify their patients to physical and even sexual activity is OK, says study author Stacey Tessler Lindau. Then disappear fear and this is more gentle to the heart.

But on the other hand, erectile dysfunction in older men may be an early warning of a future heart attack. Erection difficulties can be a sign of a heart disease.

Love for well-being
Sex is therefore good for health – thumbs up for the loss. And therefore there are also medical recommendations for positions that make intercourse easier if you have it a little harder physically. It’s maybe good but who knows me knows that I now lift the forefinger; six’re much more than a sex !!! For it is not the one that increases quality of life and makes people happy. It is the intimate contact with the people we love. It is our need for acceptance, proximity and security assuaged by this proximity. Just in older people where sexual intercourse may become more unimportant. The tenderness and my favored prelude will be much happier!

5 everyday pickup lines for HER & HIM

Untitled“So you also like the Spice Girls?” Once asked me a young guy who had heard me and my girlfriends when we shouted to the “If you wanna be my lover” at the disco. And yes, I probably should have shown a little more respect toward the guy, but I could barely keep myself from laughing. But it was the right cocky daring on this on a girls’ night, and his attempt at a really good pick-up line did not succeed. Okay, the guy was at least a head smaller than me and guess five years too young and therefore had relatively small chances.

A while ago I talked with a couple of girl friends this evening and we started talking about the pickup lines that really work. For her and for him. I actually have a small list of pickup lines that nonetheless fails. Now we come to a list of five living serviceable pickup lines that should work.

1. Hi, I’m …
… And now developed in 1000 exciting opportunities. I am Peter, I’m Sarah, I’m new in town, I’m confused, I’m full. Depending on where you want to come with pickup line so it is a lot of room for creativity. And it fits well with a question afterwards – about the weather, the music or the way home … depending on where you are.

2. Why we do not know each other yet?
Much better than “Do you know me.” Or “I want to know you.” Admittedly, this is quite courageous, but who has the situation under control after little eye contact can actually venture into it. The worst that can happen is that you get a strange look, right?

3. Would you recommend this drink?
… Or the book, or the ice cream or what he or she is holding is perfect to say to start a conversation. Much better than “Are you here often?” And the question also shows that you might have a common interest. If both love to read “Harry Potter” or “Shades of Grey”, they found the first theme and it might now arise a “magic” love story. :-) Applies the ice cream, it can be a question of a common life with lactose intolerance, concerns a matter of a drink may bring another drink.

4. We need to talk!
Something for your courageous. Because I can almost bet that you first get the right puzzled looks if you dare you to such a pick-up line. For most people, these words are not something positive. And it is clear that you must answer the question of “what?”. This surprise effect may well be a super start of a fun conversation.

5. Is it free?
A pick-up line that is not really any pickup line – perfect! But beware, not all men are flirting mood.

What is your favorite or do you know of another pick-up line that works well? Or do you have a couple of other interesting flirting tips? Run up and running, the comment field is at your disposal. Of course you can also write down the most horrible pickup replicas – just to show how to do. :-)
In the future, I will definitely keep my ears open and pay attention to how people talk to each other.

Sex in the car

Symbolbild - sex i bilenNow it’s time again, it‘s almost weekend and it’s full speed on the roads. Sun, cars everywhere It is true that then in some strange ideas: count the number of red cars, guess brands of cars or play AZ, or how it would be to press in the whole tour our provisions?

But would not it be more fun of utilization time to move a little more? For example, having sex in the car or on a picnic? But what is the best position?

But beware! Always remember to apply the handbrake properly and in gear, otherwise it can be really embarrassing! And you will be discovered can be the whole gain an abrupt end, and you even risk being reported to the police because of disorderly conduct. But on the other hand, it is not just what is high?!?

7 Seductive Sex Sins

Ok, there are couples who have same sex throughout life and not miss anything. But for all those who want a little more variety and excitement in the life I’ve made a list of seven seductive sex sins like pepper up the most humdrum life together.

1.) Bondage Sex: The games of power and submission is very exciting. How can man, for example, bind partner with flexible spank ties at the bed and spoil her how and where he wants … or vice verse! ;-)

2.) Phone Sex: Even if you have no distance relationship can be very exciting with sex over the phone. At first, it might be faintly strange, but the first time is almost as beautiful as the real first time. Start slowly and let your imagination decide. Best of all: The phone is often easier to say “dirty” things than in bed.

3.) Sex of disguises: In this seduction, there are no limits. If one is dominant nurse, a shy school girl or even an animal: A disguise is perfect for various role play and help to get the right mood. So it can detect and display the brand new sides of themselves.

4.) Sex in the water: If it’s in the sea, in the bathing lake, secret in the hotel pool or at home in the bath: Sex in the water can provide completely new feelings of happiness. Thanks to weight ratios in the water slides it really the highlight. In addition, the warm water relaxes the body so that women, for example, reaches orgasm easier.

5.) Sex at the window: To believe that one gets discovered when having sex is extremely arousing, and if it is the home of the window, it still feels safe. Sex in a lighted window are extra nervous … especially if it moans high. But be sure not to lean out too much! ;-)

6.) Sex with a stranger: Those who want even more excitement has sex with an unknown person. Take a hot guy or girl from the disco or business. This prohibited makes it guaranteed very exciting. But beware: Do not forget to protect yourselves !!!

7.) Sex by yourself: When he’d rather watch football instead to devote himself to you, when she and shopping with girlfriends … or if you are yourselves for a while: Take matters into your own hands. Masturbation is healthy and makes you get to know your body better and you become relaxed. To make things even more exciting, you can of course use the various tools.

Have fun! :-)

Anal sex – a big taboo?

Have you tried it? Yes? No? And if you have it, how was it? Phew? Or did it hurt? Never again? There is probably no sexual technique that polarizes as much as anal sex. Some think it is unbeatable and get shiny eyes only they think about it – especially men. Others think it hurts and say no right away – mostly women. And socially acceptable, it is well not – despite rhetoric about it in the media. But honestly, who really talking about this beauty that is in the “forbidden zone”? Therefore, it is very difficult to provide figures on how popular it is. But the tendency is clear: more and more couples try it and discovers a desire from both sides. Because it is so, you start right, you can actually enjoy anal sex be a really special experience. What must therefore be made so that this adventure will be nice and do not end up with a real torture?

Often it is the men who absolutely wants to try anal sex. Well, why is it so? What is it that’s so exciting to tuck the fingers, sex toys, tongue or penis in the partner’s butt? Well, because it is forbidden, it is crowded and it is intimately! And also very dirty!
Allows the girl that the guy touch her in her ass so it is a sign of great confidence and this gives man a feeling of being closer to the girl than during vaginal sex. While the girl is this kind of dedication something very special. This considering the physical aspect. Sphincter is narrow and it is what makes the Act particularly intense for the man. This area also has a lot of nerve fibers and thus it becomes a really erogenous zone and stimulated partner where it can provide a particularly intense feeling that even can give an orgasm. Yes, it is!
Preparing to it all bad however, it can make a lot of pain and it can make to the partner never want to try it. These conversations I’ve often. Curiosity is there, it is tested, goes awry and the matter is now out of the world. This happens especially when the partner can no longer think clearly and decide to stop the penis in the back without warning. Or that the penis ports where “accidentally”. But this should be reassuring, so it is important that in all cases the first time, follow a few simple rules:

1. Confidence is everything, and why you should get along before you get going. Particularly in the case the first time it is not appropriate with surprises. Anyone who (still) not ready, it should be clear with this. And no one has to be accepted!
2. You can start it all off with a loving massage to relax. It is good if you show her that she respected. Because that’s so, she feels safe and relaxed so it is more comfortable. And she is tense it will not be pleasant.
3. sphincter is a muscle that should be stretched gently. This is best if done with two circulating fingers or with a small sex toy. Use much lubricant! This is actually the alpha and omega Anus produces nothing own secretions and just that is often the problem when she complains that it hurts.
4. When she shows that she is ready for the next step, he can slowly inserting his penis and let the glans pulled back and forth. It works best if she lies on her stomach and has a pillow under your butt. Now he can penetrate her more easily. Although the idea is to avoid surprises! Thus makes it very slowly.
5. Would she rather have the check, so she can sit astride partner. In Woman on top so she can decide how far she will go and how deep the penis will encounter in the anus.
6. After the first time anal sex is extremely important to lie and cuddle! This reinforces the sense and it’s a sign of affection from both sides. For her, it can be very important to get some security right after this “dirty” sex play.

The more advanced can of course run started right away. And it can be quite uninhibited and wild. And certainly the case even for guys who want to be penetrated anally. If you turn on the (literally:-D), so it is interesting to see how many men there are who are deterred by what they take for granted that the partner should be on. A finger or a dildo in her ass will not do for a man, hetero, of course. But lucky for him, it’s not all girls who are eager to do it.

What else to think about then? Of course, the man or woman to clean the anus with an anal shower before. Some see this as a kind of foreplay and some become almost frightened by it. That’s a matter of taste! 😉 But I must say that this is not absolutely necessary because the stools are often much farther. But yes, in the rectum, there are bacteria and before you put the penis in the vagina again, you should wash it! And condoms protect not only the anus but also prevents penile infections.

The big question now is whether we think anal sex is “ok” so maybe we get rid of the erotic momentum. The more forbidden the more exciting! Then it’s with everything. What are your experiences with anal sex? Write to us!

Hand job variants part. 2 – two handed

Symbolfoto - handjobsex del 2The two handed technology could get the guy to believe that his best friend” is too large to arrange a hand job with just one hand and that’s a sexy compliment for him! 😉 Here are a couple two handed techniques slowly or quickly will give him an orgasm. You decide if he should lie, sit or stand – and you will probably soon see what your baby likes best! 😉

Keep your hands with a small distance next to the penis. Take the penis with one hand and swing” on the other hand, catch up again and swing back etc … This sex method makes him think penis feels big and heavy.

Light a fire
As of scouts! The palms are placed to the right and left of the penis, and then turn the penis and rub lightly with your hands. The penis can also be moved easily back and forth and palms can also slide up and down to give him a proper stimulation.

If a hand job gets a little too wild so he can get hurt. So it is good to stick a hand at penis shaft end and hold firmly with the other hand and move up and down.

The endless tunnel
This technique can feel like an infinite penetration. The lightly closed fists lets you glide down over the penis. When a fist came down to the end of the shaft so is the other fist ready at the glans. In this way the penis glans massage is not interrupted. Start slowly and then faster if desired, the pressure can be increased.

milk bull
This is about the same sex variation as I just mentioned, but this is the direction of another – it is massaged from the stem end to the glans. Once a hand has reached the glans so are your other hand at the end of the shaft to start again.

Grab the penis with both hands over each other and then turned his hands apart and then back again. Stir hands a bit up and down and do not interrupt the rhythm. This kind of intimate massage stimulates incredible and will make him mad! :-)

And finally a Ambidextrous sex method who also call a hand jobquickie because he soon will explode with desire.
The washing machine
Grip the handle with both hands and cross your fingers with each other. Stir hands up and down and then make you an easy ‘twist’ from left to right. This rhythm is perfect for giving him a powerful orgasm!

At all hand job variants will you be sure to use proper lubricant so that the beautiful penis massage is perfect. Have fun! 😉

Hand job variations part. 1 – One handed

One of the most comfortable way to engage intensively with his “best friend” is hand job and it’s good to be a little different variants. Today we present you some different hand job sex variations that will get him to go crazy. We start with a couple variations that can be made one handed. A little tip before we start: Use plenty of lube so it will be much more comfortable! : D These techniques are described when the man is but you can also indulge him while he was standing or sitting.

Onefinger hand job
Stir your finger in a circular motion over his glans, then slide under the prepuce or foreskin play with the band.

Take the glans between thumb and forefinger and stimulate the glans and shaft of the penis, I can describe it as if you open a screw cap and then closes it again. If you also moving his fingers up and down then the ecstasy is not far away.

This technique is perfect to begin with. Squeeze on the glans with your fingers and gently turn back and forth, as if you would like to open a very slippery door handles.

The plate
Press with a flat hand his penis shaft against his stomach. Since slides you again and again with the flat hand over the penis and press lightly (if it should look especially sexy out so take both hands and do the actions with the entire upper body.)

Shape the thumb and forefinger so that it becomes an OK sign” and put the ring over the glans. Stir fingers up and down (with a little pressure!) And after a while you can make a slight twisting motion.

Fakiehand job
No, Fakie has nothing to do with pretending, but it does backwards. Hand formed into fist and turn your hand so that your thumb pointing down and move the penis up and down.
This hand posture feels even more realistic because the fist narrowest point comes first and that one can regulate penile massage lightly.

Pull the lever
A combination of a classical hand job thumbs up and a Fakie hand job. This means that you will vary between letting his fist to have the thumb upwards and downwards and slip over the penis.

In hand job variants Part 2 we will present the Two handed penis massage techniques.

Six-New Year’s resolutions for 2014

Sex-nyårslöften för 2014The year is coming to an end – it’s the perfect time of day for an erotic flashback. The German infidelity site First Affair has conducted a survey among its members and it shows three erotic trends in 2013 these are now real or rather fantasies we do not know but we have taken a look at the survey results and has developed three six New Year’s resolutions that might sounds simple, but has a large effect and that will make 2014 an incredibly erotic and sexy year.

SixNew Year’s resolutions for 2014

At the top of the wish list is apparently a threesome guys dream about two sex bombs in bed and girls dream of becoming spoiled by two hot guys together. And why not to be at the center is always flattering, and it‘s a triple desire. 😉 Our first New Year’s resolution reads thus: Daring to something new. Here you will find a little erotic love tips for couples.

2013 has obviously been a year we like to have played 81% of the surveyed girls and 70% of respondents guys said they love to use sex toys in bed. In addition to the “normal” sex toys as it has now for this trend developed special sex toys for couples. For example: “G-Spoon“, “Intimate Spreader Vibrating” or “We-Vibes”. The relationship becomes more stable and you get a new kick in the bedroom. Our second sixNew Year’s resolution reads thus: Try some sex toys for couples.

Site members on First Affair dream most about living out the secret, erotic fantasies and that’s pretty normal on a cheating site. For it is that so many couples do not talk enough with each other, neither of trouble or when dealing with sexual desires or fantasies. And the intense conversations that are so important to strengthen the relationship and to get a good life together. Our third sixNew Year’s resolution is: Tell us about and live out your fantasies.

This list is just the beginning for 2014, and one can write where both the one and the other. But one thing is certain: When it comes to erotic New Year’s resolutions, then it should of course be no problem to keep them😉

We wish you a Happy and erotic new year!

Autumn is the best time for sex!

As sexy can be autumn
It was not long ago we sat on the beach and licked the ice cream and now you are going to dig up the thick cover jackets out of the closet.

Summer is well basically out and out it just gets colder and colder. Autumndepression? Not then! Even if the temperatures drops, it’s still hot in the imagination and in the bedrooms. Fall is actually the best time for sex!

This good news, we can thank the German and American scientists. They came up to the fact that sex hormones reaches peak values ​​in autumn. The high testosterone levels in men mourn for more desire for sex and makes the men have a longer endurance. In the girls produced more estrogen in the fall, thus increasing women’s sexual desires. This is the one (s) explosive mixture that can make autumn the best time of the year!

Now you do thus not provide because of the days just get shorter and shorter, but look forward to the nights are getting longer! 😉

Now it is the best season to pep up your sex life so there really carefully and try something new. Surprise your partner with one or two or three of our hot products. Perfect to celebrate the good news! 😀